Introduction.

Hi my name is Sam and this is my blog.


Today the concept of Love is on my mind.

I will begin with a quote from a dear friend, Jesse  "When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away."

This long and very poetic description of Love is deeply philosophical.  First off he describes here two types of Love which I will hence forth refer to as Classical and Contemporary.  Contemporary Love is that madness which is only temporary and can and will burn away.  The second Love, Classical Love, is that which is the subject of this writing.  Classic Love is what is love over when being in love has burned away. 

Classic Love is a deeply moving thing which should not only be sought but praised.  It is not seen much today as Contemporary Love has been idealized by artist and writers since the Renaissance.  Contemporary Love is the love of poets, Shakespeare, the love of song writers, Lennon, and the love of movie producers, title that come to mind are The Notebook and The Lake House . Classic Love is that which is given from God and described in First Corinthians "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."  This love does not give up when it no longer feels in love. 

So why this focus on Love?  It is simple, I seek to be loved and love like this.  It is my belief that we all seek this love but have been so brainwashed by the media that we no longer know what real love is and only through study and deep contemplations and broken hearts can we know what real love is.  Classical Love.  C.S. Lewis describes this Love in his book Mere Christianity  “Love in this second sense – love as distinct from ‘being in love’ – is not merely a feeling.  It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriages) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God.  They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other.” 

I am confounded and bothered by people that run recklessly into relationship hoping that the next one will be ther right one.  They continue to do the same thing over and over expecting different results.  That folks is the defination of insanity. 

So how does a single guy have such an opinion on Love?  Well time for some background about me. In 2006 I enrolled in college for the second time and very soon after fell deeply in Love, at first it was only Contemporay Love but soon that grew into Classic Love and I fought anything to keep her.  This included her parents on more than one occassion and my brother at times.  I gave her all that I could to the point of taking out loans from the bank to buy her the things she wanted. I planned my future around her and she knew all this.  In the end it wasn't enough, she kept changing me and demanding more of me.  The day I left her the fight we had was about my study habits.  Apparently she didn't like me sitting in the bedroom reading while she was in the main room of the apartment with the TV on.  So that was the final fight, I broke off the engagment that day and have never turned back. Feb, 8th 2008 


I would like to say that  on that day our interactions ended but that would be false.  After I left her there were suddenly many rumors going around about me and at one point she tried to get me fired from my job.  It was difficult and I have had trouble trusting women ever since.  But I don't hold a grudge against her or other women.  After nearly two years of being single I am once again seeking a deeper realtionship with someone the problem that I keep running into is that women don't expect or know how to react to a gentleman.  But thats a discussion for another day.


Peace and Grease